Pleasure can be a triggering word. Women in particular are often taught to forgo their own pleasure in service of other people’s needs. Sometimes feelings of shame 🙈 or guilt 😔 can even arise when we make time for pleasure and seemingly fun and harmless phrases such as “my guilty pleasure” can reinforce an unhealthy association with a pure and beautiful state of being.
Pleasure is our birthright. It is not selfish or superficial or childish to want more of it in our lives. Pleasure is what lights us up and propels us with even more joy, enthusiasm and love of life. And this is why I am so passionate about helping people to give themselves more permission for pleasure and to experience new and heightened levels of pleasure through Tantra massage, Sensuality Coaching and Tantra and Coaching journeys.
What is bringing you pleasure at the moment?
A couple of years ago I attended a Tantra retreat entitled Master Your Pleasure and this, alongside several years of receiving and training in Tantra massage, were game-changers for me. The day after the retreat I went to the forest and laid on a bench in the sunshine☀️, Kundalini energy still cascading through my limbs 🔥 and I wrote this poem:
Whilst you can
For pity’s sake, stop being so relentlessly constructive, will you!
Kick off those well-worn moccasins-of-doing and bloody well relax.
You are allowed and this might come as some sort of a shock but:
You deserve it.
We were not created to be human Zoom call conductors.
We were not put on this Earth to pour our heart’s energy into constant virtual contact or to spend our sacred existence craning our knackered necks over tiny, static screens
searching for the next desperate dopamine hit of external validation
We were not made to invest our souls in inconsequential meetings
or to waste our precious life force
planning the next time that we might
actually be available to experience
For that time is now, dear friend.
And there is so much pleasure available if you’d simply let your fidgety little fingers take a moment to feel it all!
There is a joy that bubbles at your source and it is begging you to express its innocence.
Each time you choose it, it spurts out of you like a flirtatious fountain
effervescing with attractive aliveness
and flowing you into even greater goodness.
Will you savour the juicy fruits of fun that flutter inside of your loins
when you prioritise
this very instant?
Go on. I dare you!