Attachment

During the last weeks, I’ve found myself reflecting on the way we relate to one another. Many of our patterns of relating stem back to our early experiences and can greatly impact adult relationships. And the way that we have learned to form attachment with others can result in repetitive patterns. So awareness is key here. 🔄

In fact, Attachment theory was developed by British psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s and emphasises the impact of early caregiver interactions on psychological development. 🧠

Basically, people with a secure attachment style tend to feel confident in relationships, while anxious types may fear abandonment and avoidant types might struggle with intimacy. Understanding your attachment style can really help to improve communication and foster healthier connections. 💑

I have personally found that reflecting on my own attachment style has enabled me to better understand and have self-compassion for my patterns and has helped me to explore different ways of being in relationship. 🌱

If you’re curious about this topic I’d also highly recommend reading the book “Attached” by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller which examines adult attachment styles, offering insights into how they shape relationships, communication patterns, and emotional dynamics. 📚

So how do our attachment styles impact our sexual lives and relationships? 😏

Securely attached people typically enjoy healthier sexual experiences, feeling comfortable with intimacy and trust. Having an anxious attachment style may lead to seeking reassurance or validation through sexual encounters, potentially fostering dependency. Whereas people with the avoidant attachment style might choose distancing behaviours or tend to be commitment averse in sexual relationships. 🔒

Understanding your attachment style can build your self-awareness and help you to navigate sexual dynamics, create healthier connections, and address underlying emotional needs within your most intimate relationships. 💖

Tune in to my podcast episode in which I unpack some of my thoughts and experiences about the topic of Attachment on Spotify or on Apple. 🎙️